In our life’s everyday situation sometimes we hear many versions of the same story from different people and we know someone is not speaking the truth and each and every one wants to believe the version which is more convenient and less damaging for them. But what makes people speak lie? Why don’t we have same version of stories all the time from all the people? I was recalling the incidents which make me speak lies, Sometimes I spoke lies in the fear of not to hurt someone I love, like to my mom, sometimes in the fear of not breaking a relationship and sometimes in the fear of public humiliation or disgrace. Can a lie really help us in love, in constructing a relationship or give us a public grace, but in contrary it can take all of the above away from us but still we keep using this tool of lie in our everyday life! I went to Krishnamurthy’s book in search of answer for this! Here is what he has to say about it!
“It is one of the most difficult things in the world to look at anything simply. Because our minds are very complex we have lost the quality of simplicity. I don’t mean simplicity in clothes or food, wearing only a loin cloth or breaking a record fasting or any of that immature nonsense the saints cultivate, but the simplicity that can look directly at things without fear – that can look at ourselves as we actually are without any distortion – to say when we lie we lie, not cover it up or run away from it. Freedom from the Known – 24”
Ok if fear makes us speak lie, why there is fear? He has answer for that too!
“The demand to be safe in relationship inevitably breeds sorrow and fear. This seeking for security is inviting insecurity. Have you ever found security in any of your relationships? Have you? Most of us want the security of loving and being loved, but is there love when each one of us is seeking his own security, his own particular path? We are not loved because we don’t know how to love. Freedom from the Known – 78”
So, may be confidence in oneself will get us off from our insecurities, hence the fear and the lies!